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Alycia Stack is currently a student of Social Work at Colorado State University. Her interests include science, promoting social justice, feminism, secular values, keeping reptiles (particularly snakes), and learning as much as possible at all times.

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Eyes

When I first started calling my mother with cute stories about the kids, she remarked on how incredible it is to see the world through a child's eyes.  And it really is incredible.  Each one of these amazing children has a different insight into every situation, every new experience. 
The Gorgeous Miss Rianna having fun at the park
Rianna is very deliberate; she's a thinker.  She's the one who asks the questions that you don't quite know how to answer.  Her thirst for knowledge is refreshing in today's world of television and materialism.  Part of her constant deliberation is that she moves very slowly; getting this little girl to eat a meal in a timely manner is pretty close to impossible.  But you can always see the wheels in her mind turning.  She pays attention to everything... we all went out to eat at a Chinese buffet a couple weeks ago and the hostess asked how old the children were.  Without missing a beat she pointed at each of us and said "Four, Six, Eight, Twenty-three and Thirty-six." :)
Gjorde is very adamant that he is NOT, in fact, Spiderman... but I think this proves otherwise.
Gjorde is the one who constantly reminds me that patience is key.  Not because he requires a lot of it--far from it--but rather because he is so patient himself.  He never wants to step on any toes, and he is very understanding about the mistakes of others.  For such a little guy, his heart is so big, and he is always the first to give you a hug or a kiss when you really need it, because he just knows. He loves superheroes, and that's always how he plays.  He doesn't realize it now, but he doesn't need to pretend to be a superhero when he plays; he already is a superhero in real life. 
Alie is always laughing :) She keeps things lighthearted.
Alie has a heart for animals and a talent for comedy.  She's always quick with a witty remark, a funny face, or a song that she's made up on the spot about whatever is on her mind.  The way that she pronounces things is incredibly precious.  A door is a "doy" and a horse is a "hoyse".  She gave Rianna her nickname, Nana, and she pronounces Gjorde's name as "Joy-dee".  She's definitely four, and thus even when she is wrong she is right.  It's important in this household to recognize that Invader Zim is actually called Vader 'n Zim, and Hannah Montana is called Hanna 'n Tana because "she's TWO gulls". 
I know that someday I will have a little one of my own with Kris, and that child will have a whole new perspective for me to see the world through.  Each of these perspectives has enriched my own view of the world, and now that they are in my life I cannot imagine my life without them.  Being a part of this family is the most precious opportunity I've ever been offered.  I absolutely love my life and all of these amazing people that I get to share it with.


Love (buckets and buckets of it),
Alycia

Thursday, July 29, 2010

My Story

One of the greatest things that my boyfriend has taught me is that your family is not just made up of your relatives.  A family can continue to grow bigger and bigger when you let new people into your heart.  That's what happened when I met Kristoffer.  We had been a part of the same Ex-Mormon support group for a few years before we figured out that we lived in the same town.  Despite our age difference of 13 years we realized that we had quite a bit in common, and after we met we quickly became best friends and lovers.  He and I are both divorced; I have no children, he has three.  Rianna is 8, Gjorde (pronounced Jordy) is 6, and Alathandrja (Alie) is 4.  When the time came for me to meet his children I was extremely nervous.  Having no kids of my own, I thought that they would definitely drive me crazy, that I wasn't ready to share Kris's attention when they were around, that everything would change...
But as it turns out, Kris really wasn't kidding when he told me that his children were the best in the world.  I had already fallen in love with Kris, but this lucky girl got to fall in love three more times, and it has been so incredibly wonderful.  Although they are not mine biologically, I have been striving to be the best Stepmom I can be.  And this is where I will be sharing my stories and chronicles of my adventures as a 23-year-old Stepmom of three with you.

Much love,
Alycia